Ever wondered how to make him want you? You spend a lot of time with each other, talking, laughing, and having a good time -- but he simply doesn't see you as a girlfriend. He loves you, but only as a friend. Why? It could be because you're trying to earn his love in the terribly wrong way!
The Terribly Wrong Way Of Earning His Love
I had a friend named "Joy" who once had a bad relationship with an abusive boyfriend. He was immature, unfaithful, and irresponsible. And even when Joy was doing everything she could to hold the relationship together, the guy was still abusing her, dating other women, and simply being a jerk.
But to my shock and disappointment, Joy still put in her hours to make him stay in the relationship. Even if it was the guy who was being a jerk, it was Joy who was doing all the sacrificing, pleading, and anguishing.
Needless to say, the relationship didn't work out -- but not before Joy spent an incredible 4 years trying to hold the relationship together.
What Was Joy's Problem?
Loves, it's wrong to go thinking you can change a bad boyfriend to make him love you.
I've learned that most -- if not ALL -- bad boyfriends are actually emotionally-unavailable little boys. If he doesn't care enough to help make the relationship work, then he's very likely not in it for the long haul.
And trying to change him will only make the situation worse.
Read my lips -- you CAN'T change a bad boyfriend by trying to fix his problems.
A man doesn't need a "mother," a "teacher," or a "shrink" figure to be happy.
He needs a LOVER.
Do you really want to be a mother, teacher, or shrink to him for the rest of the relationship? I sure hope not!
The Right Way Of Earning His Love
Ah, but there's some GOOD NEWS in all of this! Like I said, it's IMPOSSIBLE to change a man by trying to fix his problems. But no one said you couldn't INSPIRE him to fix his problems!
Men are like puppies. If you chase after them, they'll run away. But if you handle the treats, you don't need to chase them -- they'll come to you and beg to have their tummy rubbed.
What's your "treats?"
It's your love. Your charm. Your irresistible attractiveness.
Here's the lesson, loves: It's not because about "what you should do" to earn a man's love...
It's about HOW TO ACT, THINK, and FEEL in such a way that it makes men FALL IN LOVE with you -- to the point of manning up and actually taking responsibility of the relationship.
Doesn't that sound great? So remember, loves: Don't be a teacher, mother, or "shrink" to him. Be a lover, and he'll start treating you like one!
My name is Samantha S. James, and I'm a dating-and-relationships coach. Feel free to join my community of strong, attractive, intelligent women. Learn with us how to act, think, and feel in such a way that it makes men fall in love with you!
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